Friday, February 6, 2009

I had to publish this...

..because it was the most amazing event in my [sex] life.

I know a lot of people are very timid when it comes down to sexual conversations. Either they feel embarrassed talking about it, they haven't experienced enough to have a real conversation about it, or they're just private about it. I'm definitely not bashful when it comes to talking about sex - either general conversation or details about my own personal experiences are fair game in my book. Warning: this post may get a little steamy for sensitive readers, so continue reading at your own risk.

Too many women continue to live their lives without experiencing one of the most basic [and necessary] of human joys: the orgasm. Either they just don't know what it takes to get them there [for lack of information or a partner] or their partners just don't know what they're doing.

The largest demographic of unsatisfied women [at least in my own experience] have been heterosexual women, which doesn't surprise me. Men just don't know what they're doing sometimes and even if they do, they may just lack patience and focus on their own pleasure [my own opinion: men are always out to bust through jabbing something with their penis, and being that they believe their penis is enough of a "pleasure tool", they're not really concerned about going above and beyond in other ways]. Since it's more likely for the man to bust during sex than the woman, it's just easier to bone til he busts and call it day; take whatever pleasure you can get while he's still hard.

A large part of missing out on orgasms goes back to lack of information. What better way to figure out what feels good than by doing it with someone with whom you are most comfortable? Don't hate, masturbate! I am a HUGE proponent of masturbation. Not only is it good for educational purposes [both for yourself and to teach others] but it's necessary to develop the nerves that help you O!
It's like when you're starting to learn how to write. Your handwriting is sloppy and your grip on the pencil is shaky, but with time and practice, your fingers and hand gain more dexterity and your brain builds nerves/synapses to retain that skill. In essence, if you don't use it, you lose it!

It's really too bad that more girls/women aren't encouraged to masturbate. Perhaps it stems from the whole power dynamic between men and women: women aren't allowed to derive pleasure for themselves, but simply provide pleasure [and children] to men.

Now, I'm not trying to hate on guys - I'm not anti-men - but, logically speaking, doesn't it make sense that another woman would know what to do with a vagina than a man? Assuming she's experienced [or, like some of us, naturally gifted ;-) ] she'll know where your clit is, where your G-spot is, the difference between the two, and what to do with them to make you climax [because she has one too! unbelieveable isn't it].

An orgasm is a wonderful thing. Whether through clitoral stimulation or massaging the g-spot, an orgasm is generally described the same way: an explosion and then waves of pleasure.
By this point, you're probably wondering where I'm going with this and how this is relevant. I needed to provide some background information before getting down and dirty with the details [you like that alliteration, don't front].


What does this mean and/or entail? It means sex at least 5 times a week and o-ing every time. It also means [at least for me] that every time, it's better than the last! Don't ask me how that's lovergirl is just amazing that way [and NO you CAN'T have her so stop wishing].
So one hot and heavy evening of the most incredible sex I've ever had, I orgasmed so hard and long [that's what she said] that I cried. I legit started to cry because I was so overwhelmed by the waves of that funnygoodfeeling that I couldn't contain my emotion.

As I am a visual person, let me attempt at showing you what I mean.
For me, a typical orgasm feels like an explosion, waves of pleasure wash over you, and then it dies down and looks like this [at least how I would describe it via keyboard]:


Notice how it diminishes towards the end. That's typically when most people lie back and cuddle.
What I experienced was more like this:


Notice how much longer that is and how it doesn't really "die down" til the very, very end. I just kept experiencing the waves, each as intense as the one before. Is it a wonder that I cried?? And no I'm not a crier, and yes I have a rep to protect, but I'll admit it. I cried. I'm not ashamed. BECAUSE IT WAS SO FUCKING GOOD WHAT THE HELL ELSE DO YOU EXPECT?!
And I just had to tell someone. What better way to reach people than by blogging?

In any case, if you haven't had an orgasm, you're missing out. Go do some research and get there yourself. Or if you already know what you're doing, find someone who does too or who is willing to learn and takes direction'd be amazed at how much an eager student can absorb!

[jealous? yea..i'd be too]

aaaand I'm spent.
Love, peace, and hot [safe] sex to all!